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I'd have to say that what annoys me the most about Valentine's Day is that basically everyone in the world finds a reason to bitch about it. People in good relationships rail on about how they don't need a contrived "holiday" to tell them when to display their feelings for their partner. People bitter about being "alone" (meaning without a so-called soul mate) bitch about how the holiday reminds them of how fucking alone they are. And of course, so many people celebrating Valentine's day do so by over crowding movies and restaurants, and buying shitty last-minute gifts in the hopes of getting extra-laid. None of this is particularly enjoyable.
Before I met H, I mostly got wasted on Valentine's Day. Back then, I mostly got wasted when confronted with anything sad or difficult to deal with. It was kinda my thing. But I don't think I begrudged anyone their happiness. I also tended to buy myself chocolates. I still do that from time to time.
Here's the thing. We don't "need" any holiday. The world would not implode on itself if we no longer had Christmas, or Halloween, or Presidents Day. We have them to provide us with annual reminders of things that some people consider important. Does everyone need to be reminded to appreciate their moms in May, or to thank Jesus for being murdered every spring? No. But is it really such a big deal to tolerate people who do? I get my H something fun on Valentine's Day. This year he's getting a cool T-shirt and some wasabi gumballs. He'll enjoy them. We use Valentines Day as an excuse to do something fun that we normally wouldn't.
If you're bitter about being alone, you'll want to keep in mind that bitterness is not a particularly attractive trait. Instead of being bitter about shit, try focusing on the things in your power--you know, like yourself. If you're really so focused on your own misery that you view any happy couple with contempt, you need more mental help than a Hallmark card and some Godiva can provide.
That said, I'm a fan of gifts--both givin' and gettin'. Sometimes people give me small toys, candies, tiny cards that come in boxes of 30, and general requests to be the Valentine of that person. It's all very silly, sparkly, pink, and fun. If it's killing you inside to watch people tritely express love and friendship, by all means don't participate. But if you do choose to abstain, don't even THINK you're getting one of the tiny Snickerses at my desk!
This year, H and I are celebrating with a romantic trip to the grocery store. Later, dinner with my brother, and then cartoons with the usual peeps. I'll probably make a marzipan cake. People love those.
I'd have to say that what annoys me the most about Valentine's Day is that basically everyone in the world finds a reason to bitch about it. People in good relationships rail on about how they don't need a contrived "holiday" to tell them when to display their feelings for their partner. People bitter about being "alone" (meaning without a so-called soul mate) bitch about how the holiday reminds them of how fucking alone they are. And of course, so many people celebrating Valentine's day do so by over crowding movies and restaurants, and buying shitty last-minute gifts in the hopes of getting extra-laid. None of this is particularly enjoyable.
Before I met H, I mostly got wasted on Valentine's Day. Back then, I mostly got wasted when confronted with anything sad or difficult to deal with. It was kinda my thing. But I don't think I begrudged anyone their happiness. I also tended to buy myself chocolates. I still do that from time to time.
Here's the thing. We don't "need" any holiday. The world would not implode on itself if we no longer had Christmas, or Halloween, or Presidents Day. We have them to provide us with annual reminders of things that some people consider important. Does everyone need to be reminded to appreciate their moms in May, or to thank Jesus for being murdered every spring? No. But is it really such a big deal to tolerate people who do? I get my H something fun on Valentine's Day. This year he's getting a cool T-shirt and some wasabi gumballs. He'll enjoy them. We use Valentines Day as an excuse to do something fun that we normally wouldn't.
If you're bitter about being alone, you'll want to keep in mind that bitterness is not a particularly attractive trait. Instead of being bitter about shit, try focusing on the things in your power--you know, like yourself. If you're really so focused on your own misery that you view any happy couple with contempt, you need more mental help than a Hallmark card and some Godiva can provide.
That said, I'm a fan of gifts--both givin' and gettin'. Sometimes people give me small toys, candies, tiny cards that come in boxes of 30, and general requests to be the Valentine of that person. It's all very silly, sparkly, pink, and fun. If it's killing you inside to watch people tritely express love and friendship, by all means don't participate. But if you do choose to abstain, don't even THINK you're getting one of the tiny Snickerses at my desk!
This year, H and I are celebrating with a romantic trip to the grocery store. Later, dinner with my brother, and then cartoons with the usual peeps. I'll probably make a marzipan cake. People love those.